Couples Work

Some of the most important relationships in our lives are also the most difficult to navigate.

Whether you're romantic partners, close friends, family members, or collaborators, the patterns that develop between people can become some of the hardest to see and the hardest to shift. We learn to protect ourselves, to manage distance and closeness, to communicate in ways that once worked and no longer do.

Couples work creates a space where those patterns can slow down enough to be seen, and where something new can begin to emerge between you.

My Approach

I work with couples the same way I work with individuals: relationally, somatically, and without a predetermined agenda.

My role is not to referee or tell you who is right. It is to help each person feel genuinely heard, and to help you both develop a different quality of attention toward each other and toward the dynamic that lives between you.

Sometimes what looks like a communication problem is actually an attachment wound. Sometimes what feels like conflict is actually two people reaching for connection in ways the other can't recognize. We work at the level where the real pattern lives, not just the surface behavior.

One Thing Worth Knowing Before We Begin

In the early stages of couples work it sometimes becomes clear that one or both people need individual work first. This isn't a setback. It's often the most honest and caring thing I can offer. Trying to do relational work before each person has a stable enough relationship with themselves can stall the process or make it harder.

If that's where we land, I'll say so directly and we'll figure out the best path forward together.

This Work May Be a Good Fit If...

You feel stuck in recurring cycles of conflict, distance, or disconnection.

You want to feel more genuinely close but don't know how to get there.

You're navigating a major transition together, a move, a loss, a new chapter.

You're preparing for or integrating a shared psilocybin experience.

You want to do meaningful work together before problems become entrenched.

You're in a non-traditional relationship structure and want support that meets you where you are without judgment.

Practical Details

Couples sessions are 90 minutes, available in person in Portland or via Zoom. Fees follow the Bathtub Scale sliding scale model with rates adjusted to reflect the longer session length. Current range is $175 to $500 per session.